Symptoms of negativity
Finding flaws first, instead of positive attributes
Constantly rolling eyes when someone is talking
Whispering and pulling certain people into a corner to complain
Talking while others speak, not facing directly
Sarcastic jokes and hater speech when information is being given
Placing one's value based on what they own or posess
Entering a group and immediately undermining instructor/purpose of group
Every time I deal with this, I ask myself ; Is this fool worth it? Then I have to check myself and say; I been there too, so give them a shot, a lot of time they don't realize they do it,
ignorance is bliss
When I used to take #martial #arts, I never went in boasting that I was an instructor. I just learn all that I can. Was I ever perfect? Nah.. my #ego had to shift from a #leadership position to a #student. When you do a lot of research and you've gained a lot of personal experience, it's hard to take instruction from someone who is younger, or maybe their style or technique may not be what you're used to, or what you expected, and this, my friends is hinderance.
You must see something in them that drew you there in the first place. Competitive nature drives people to me all the time where they think they're going to humiliate me in my own classes. I had an NFL hopeful tell me, 'I heard this was the class to take!'
Then it was; 'I'm mad, you..you don't understand..I..I can jump over your head.' 'Not doubting this at all, bro.' I said. What you came in for, though, is #ropes training, and you got whooped, it's ok! Our ropes training ain't no #crossfit where you sloppily (if that's even a word) climb up and ring some sort of bell.. You move so slow that you begin to shake, the pain is so much, that your hands and feet can't take it. The ropes we use are cotton or weaved nylon and so, the Tug boat ropes are not as effective for wraps. It hurts. However, the endurance & hand-strength you build is incredible. This enhances lifting, body weight training and other #sports. Which, is what he came to me for.
He did have a little crowd that watched him and I think this is what triggered him.
The gym we train in is very critical, you'll get people gawking at you waiting for a gym fail.
Now I won't go into how they should mind their business & go for a walk or something, but this is gym culture & I don't care who watches.
If you've already rolled your eyes acouple times, it's best you click off now..I'm going to touch on a very toxic subject, so go #meditate and think about how your attitude affects others.
SLIMY GYM STORIES:
An immature attitude and behavior, of not wanting to acknowledge another's study & practice, signal weaknesses in one's sense of self. There's confidence and then there's over-compensation or overconfidence. Often times, these personalities don't move on a goal until they get triggered by someone else's achievements. They then, begin to mimmick that person in every way... Their goal is to do it, wear it, play it, better, but this is not true goal setting. This is just a copycat. The other person has no idea they are competing until the egoist shows them they did it too. clap, clap.. When the person shows them they don't care or even uplift them and say "Hey, that's awesome!" It gets so much worse..
Then fixation begins. The egoist goes above and beyond, focusing on the other person to make sure they stay behind, but true purpose does not #live here. Egoist has feelings of remorse, guilt, and fear, which lead to more toxic #behaviors. They then start gossiping about the person they fixated on and try to ruin their work-life, interrupt their flow, all while making themselves out to be the greatest person ever! Ego turns into narcissism fast.
My question to the egoist is; Do you really think we don't see you? I used to get annoyed such to the point that I would take delight in putting these types in check. They had it coming cause I would mostly be on my goals. A Zumba instructor who came in like this worked very hard to prove that she was better. The backhanded comments were lame cause she couldn't see I was trying to help her gain strength, have confidence, and enjoy sports.
She was so caught up, that I started making Zumba jokes-yes, I admit now it was childish but, I never said I was perfect. She would come to me with hardcore videos of some yoga master or dancer who had clearly been doing their craft for years just to see me do something wrong. I would laugh, take the challenge, and show her 5 more #techniques or variations of their one thing. My mind is always on improving any movements & techniques that may be #valuable to students because that is what a trainer who loves the body does. Then she started making comments about facial features and comparing our body shapes..Ugh, it was kind of exhausting, but she came to me as a "friend". Instead of letting her foul mouth and attitude sour my love of being fit, I put more time into myself.
Consistency will K.O. all of this. Egoists will stay for years sometimes trying to drink up that pure essence of follow through, but you always see fluxuations in their behaviors, weight, and even material possesions. If they can't be hotter than you, then they strive for the aesthetic that they have more money than you, and this will surely break you down.. Will it though? Everyone knows that #American lifestyle is a borrowed one. Then you have to chain yourself to a job or workloads because you couldn't wait to show everyone you're better than they are. Hey, good for you, but I don't have time for these games.
Confused by your ability to stay on path, no matter what the case, they get lazy, and play catchup games all the time. Again because they never found their purpose and they are not consistent because to them it's about beating you, not their personal #goals.. Comments and side jabs start coming more frequently, at first they like what you do and see the work it takes, so the fear they have begins to show, insults that come off as jokes are filled with disrespect, and this exposes their true nature.
When you focus on yourself, there's really no time for what the others do. Let them talk, let them compete and just keep living your life as you design it. Our health is not bought, so don't squander years trying to keep up with those who are on another path & if I may add another #level. Hone in on what is important now because we'll never get our #time back.
See you in the next one!
Love & Hugs,
T